Does vulnerability feel scary? You're not alone. Vulnerability is a key ingredient in our intimate relationships, yet it's often the thing we fear most. As a sex and relationship coach, I create a sanctuary for vulnerability exploration – a space where you can safely navigate these waters.

 

Here's what makes this work different: While many approaches focus on reaching specific outcomes, true intimacy lives in the present moment. But how do we stay present when our minds want to race ahead or retreat to the past?

 

Through experiential embodiment exercises, we move beyond just talking about intimacy to actually experiencing it. These exercises emphasize the importance of living experiences (as opposed to getting caught in thoughts) as the central vehicle towards deeper intimacy and choice. I work from the foundational belief that intimacy and eroticism are teachable skills – ones we can develop together through a trauma-informed lens.

 

The Selfish Sexuality Approach

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This isn't just sex and relationship coaching – it's an embodiment revolution. Together, we'll explore:

•    Putting the power back in your hands (literally and metaphorically)

•    Creating a relationship of consent with your body

•    Transforming from co-dependent to interdependent relationships

•    Developing self-authored pleasure 

•    Learning the art of self-regulation

•    Attuning to partners who see you as wonderfully, completely whole

 

All Bodies Welcome

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Sex and relationship coaching is for every body regardless of size, age (21+), ability, gender identity, and sexual orientation. Whether you're straight, queer, bi, pan, trans, celibate, asexual, or questioning – you're welcome here. Your identity is valid. Your experiences are valid. Every body has a story. Let’s understand yours. ​

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Together we will:

• De-program the messages from dominate culture that harm us

• De-armor our protective shield

• De-shame our bodies (because living in this culture means we all carry shame)

• De-mystify our pleasure

• Reclaim our right to embodied joy

 

Is Sex and Relationship Coaching Right for You?

 

Sex coaching for individuals, ask yourself:

• Do you struggle to voice your needs in intimate situations?

• Have past experiences left you disconnected from your body?

• Are you ready to explore your desires without judgment?

• Do you want to understand what turns you on?

• Do you want to learn how to flirt?

• Does the idea of "selfish sexuality" both excite and frighten you?

 

Relationship coaching for couples consider:​

• Do you feel like roommates rather than lovers?

• Are you struggling to bridge different desire levels?

• Has physical intimacy become mechanical or routine?

• Do you want to explore new dimensions of pleasure together?

• Are you ready to move beyond surface-level communication?

• Do you know each other's core desires?

• Do you want to transform from codependent to interdependent

 

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Transform Your Intimate Life

 

We’ll explore:

• Your pleasure energy circuit

• Communication tools that go beyond words

• Boundary-setting that feels empowering rather than restrictive

• Your core desire (how you want to feel during sex)

• Your hottest sexual movie (the actions accelerate your core desire)

• Your brakes and accelerators (turn ons and offs)

• How to be in your body not just your head

 

Your Embodiment Revolution Includes

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Experiential learning that puts theory into practice through:

• Body-based exercises that reconnect you with your desires

• Practical tools for self-regulation and boundary setting

• Techniques for communicating desires

• Skills to navigate consent with confidence and clarity

• Tools to communicate trauma triggers and share support strategies with partners

 

How We Work Together

 

Sex and relationship coaching is a collaborative process:

• Initial connection: Free 20-minute video call to understand your goals and ensure we're a good fit

• Session length: 90 minutes to 2 hours, depending on what we're working on

• Recommended cadence: Weekly meetings, with a rhythm of 3 weeks on, 1 week off

• Duration: Most people feel complete in their intimacy work within 12-16 sessions

• Location: Available both in-person (South Austin studio) and virtually

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Professional, Trauma-Informed Support

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Your story deserves to be held with care. I work from a trauma-informed perspective that honors your experiences and pace. Remember: you're not broken – you're in a process of remembering your innate wisdom about your body and pleasure.​
 

Ready to Start Your Pleasure Revolution?

 

Your journey to sexual liberation starts with one deliberate step. Let's put the power back in your hands and rewrite your pleasure story together. Contact me today to schedule a free 20 min video call. Because you deserve pleasure that's well-resourced, self-authored, and completely yours. Remember: Being selfish with your sexuality isn't just okay – it's revolutionary.

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Further reading:

Selfish in Bed? How Selfish Sexuality Came to Be.

The Geography of Pleasure

What is the difference between a sex coach and surrogate partner therapy?​​